DefinitionsTruthfulness - Telling the truth: transcendant fundamental or spiritual reality, or the body of real things, events, and facts. Honesty - Adherence to the facts; implies a refusal to lie, steal, or deceive in any way; ComparisonsCaring and insightful vs. Rigorous and disciplined Whole brain, holistic vs. Left brain, linear Skillful vs. Blunt ExampleRegina expressed her truth, when she said,
"I'm feeling upset about our relationship right now. You seem to be blaming me for our financial problems. Is that what you intend?" George was being honest when he said, "I'm feeling angry and I'm thinking about giving up on our relationship because I believe you are blaming me for our financial problems." Key Point Being truthful is stronger than being honest, because it
requires that I get beyond what I'm presently thinking to that which I Know, and skillfully present that which I know. Benefits Your relationships with both others and yourself will benefit greatly by getting this distinction. Related distinctions tactful vs. blunt unconditionally constructive vs. critical
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